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The Monster in the Mirror

There she is again.  Every time something goes wrong, even with something goes right, this wicked monster is the first to cast stones.  She’s quick to remind me of everything I’ve ever done wrong.  Every day, I must contend with her.

Every day, she reminds me of how weak and beaten up I am and all I’ve been through.

Minute by minute if I listen to her, I’m reminded of why I shouldn’t try, why I shouldn’t believe for better and should quit while I’m ahead.  With every new day, the old stares me in the face – if I focus on her long enough, her voice overpowers the God in me.

Perhaps the most important choice is at the beginning of the day, deciding who you’re going to listen to.  The monster doesn’t lie, she tells the truth…her version of it, anyway.

She wants to keep my focus on the past and all the pain affiliated with it.  She needs an excuse to make no effort.  Not because she doesn’t believe (she does – she knows God) but because she does and she knows if I choose not to listen to her (myself) and heed His word and His truth instead, efforts must be made, exercises in faith and trust must ensue.  She’s tired.  She’s weary and she’s discouraged.  She finds very little reason to believe a single word she says or trust even a fleeting thought of hope.  It’s all justified.  Just like a victim seeking revenge on her assailant, her actions would be righteously justified.

Here’s the thing, though.  She’s submitted to God so her right to herself has been relinquished to His right to her.  Her own actions to justify herself are null and void…She’s put her trust and heart into the hands of a Mighty Savior who has already won the battle with the monster.  All she has to do is believe it.  She knows she’s no match for fighting the monster but she’s sure her Jesus is more than capable for the battle of the day.  It’s not her strength against who she sees (and remembers) in that mirror that will have victory this day; it’s His.

Every single day, the choice is ours.  Who will lead us?  Who will we listen to?  Who will we believe?  Ourselves or our King?  The battle is won or lost with that one decision.  The truth is, we may have to make that decision on a minute by minute basis. It won’t be easy (the past will attempt to discourage); it won’t be fun (fighting ourselves is ugly and messy) but we will be victorious against our giants if we choose to fight with all of our armor on – trusting Him with everything they throw at us.  Are you in?

“…even if our hearts condemn us.  For God is greater than our hearts, and He knows everything.”  1st John 3:20 NLT


Keep Doing You.

I love to write but I’m not the best writer.  I write because it’s therapeutic, especially when I pen a devotional because God always gives me a lesson and I’m eager to share it.  I don’t share because I’m an authority on the Word nor do I think my point of view is the only one that’s important.  I share what God’s given me hoping it will provide insight and blessing to those who take the time to read.  (Thank you, by the way, if you do!)  Almost without exception after I hit the post button, I can find many things I could have/should have rephrased.

I never, ever see perfection in anything I produce.

What I do in my life is the same way.  When I review and reminisce I always see something I could have done better and often wish I had.

Some are excellent at what they do.  When we look at their accomplishments, we see nothing but pristine excellence and find ourselves feeling like a less than.  No one has to point out our lacks or faults, we have at least perfected that art; we know every one of them by heart.

That’s what happens isn’t it?  Sometimes others are quick to point out our flaws; one critical word amongst a thousand positive accolades is the word we hold on to.  Then other times, we’re doing our thing the best we can and we take our eyes off our work and look to someone else’s to see how great theirs is then become less satisfied with what we’re doing.

Stop it.

You may not be the best dancer; dance anyway.  You may not be the best singer; sing anyway.  You may feel like you’re inferior to everyone around you but if you’re doing the best you can and doing it because you love doing it, keep doing it.  Keep being you.  The people who love you will ENcourage you not DIScourage you. Those who really love you want you to be you.  You’re a unique one of a kind gift to the world and you’re exactly where you are, doing exactly what you’re doing it the way you do it to be a blessing to those around you.

Be you today.  Do you today.  Nobody can do you, like you.

Change the Language

I work for a company in another country and when I do, I have to change the language settings on my computer to comply with theirs because the way they spell certain words, even the way they write dates is different so it’s a big deal.  Sometimes I forget to either change it when I start or when I’m finished and when that happens I have a mess.  Spellcheck takes twice as long because it picks up how the other country spells and dates are written wrong too.  So, I have to log out of what I’m doing, reset the language, reboot and start all over again.

It’s so easy for me to compliment and encourage other people; when it comes to myself I have a huge problem of talking down, even bashing myself.  Just recently one of my friends called my attention to how much I say, “it will go wrong, you know my luck”; “just my luck” when things go awry, or “I should’ve known not to even try” are a few examples.  I suspect most people are like that.  We are hardest on ourselves.

So the last time I changed the language on the computer, I felt a nudge to my Spirit to do the same thing with myself.

Change the language we speak to ourselves.  Cursing ourselves, talking down to ourselves is just as much wrong as it would be talking to someone else.  Not only are “they” God’s beloved and we should treat them with respect, we should show ourselves the same courtesy.

Speak words of life and encouragement over yourself today.  When negative shows up, replace it with positive.  Speak words of life and blessing, build yourself up don’t tear yourself down.  Change the language.

Go look in the mirror.  Tell yourself, “good morning beautiful.  You are fearfully and wonderfully made. God rejoices over YOU with singing.  YOU are His precious one, YOU’re the one He died for.  He has good plans for YOU. He loves YOU.”  Have you ever done that before?  When negativity creeps in and you start beating yourself up, stop.  Change the language.  When you do, your atmosphere will change, your countenance will lighten and you’ll even be better to those around you!

“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” 

Proverbs 18:21